Relationships as a Parent
- Understand your basic needs and the needs of each of your children.
- Learn how to meet your own needs, while helping your children meet theirs in responsible ways.
- Discriminate between doing to, doing for, and doing with your children.
- Negotiate the inherent conflict between parents and children – parents wanting to keep their children safe, while children want to live with reckless abandon.
- Apply these skills to any relationship in your life to create happy, supportive, caring relationships.
The ideal divorce is done respectfully, without malice and blame. Throughout the transition, the parents support each other and work together to co-parent their children. If step-parents are introduced, everyone works together to create a unified parenting team. Does this sound like a fantasy to you? Is this not the way your divorce is going? Are your children suffering because your ex has left them in the divorce too? This is not ideal, but there are still things you can do to help your children through this.
I have finally finished my parenting curriculum, Empowerment Parenting. This is a 25-hour parenting program for people mandated to attend parenting classes. It teaches parenting skills based on our five basic needs and emphasizes the difference between discipline and punishment. Parents are taught the formula for teaching their children self-discipline while building influential, positive relationships with their children.
This month’s InsideOut Empowerment Challenge is about looking beyond behavior to its purpose. All behavior is purposeful. Every behavior is a person’s best attempt to get something they want at that particular time to more effectively meet one of their five basic needs.
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