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Rate each statement with your first thought about how much it resembles you, with one being least true and five being most true.
 

I enjoy time spent with other people.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I participate in various groups.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I hate conflict.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Relationships are important to me.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am mostly comfortable around people whom I know.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am happy when working with others as part of a team.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I love romance and making love.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
It is important for me to show others I care for them.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Being accepted by others is very important to me.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I often turn to others for support.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
Your Email:

 

Freedom

 

 

 

Rate each statement with your first thought about how much it resembles you, with one being least true and five being most true.

I always question the rules.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I become frustrated when I believe I don’t have choices.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I hate being told what to do.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I enjoy a lot of time to myself.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I must do things my own way.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am creative.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I like doing things on a moments notice.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Being independent is important to me.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I enjoy change.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I get frustrated if I don’t have enough space or feel restricted.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
Your Email:

 

 

 

Enjoyment

 

 

Rate each statement with your first thought about how much it resembles you, with one being least true and five being most true.

I laugh often.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
There are many hobbies I enjoy.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Learning something new is enjoyable.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Even when things are serious, I find myself making fun.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I can turn drudgery into fun.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Making other people laugh is my mission in life.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I can make fun out of anything.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am playful.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am able to laugh at myself.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Enjoying things and people are important.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
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Significance

 

 

 

Rate each statement with your first thought about how much it resembles you, with one being least true and five being most true.

I have a lot of skills and abilities.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I always seek to do my best in everything.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am competitive.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I like being recognized for my accomplishments.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I must always have the respect from those around me.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Leaving a legacy is very important to me.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I need to be right most of the time.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I like being in control.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Being the center of attention feels wonderful.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I feel important and powerful when I have expensive things.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
Your Email:

 

 

 

Survival

 

 

 

Rate each statement with your first thought about how much it resembles you, with one being least true and five being most true.

I am extremely conservative.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I save rather than spend.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I take very little risks.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I have a strong distrust of new things, ideas, and people.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Exercise is important in my life.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I hate change of any sort.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I eat well for good health.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I must feel safe at all times.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Maintaining my health is a priority for me.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Financial stability is of utmost importance.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
Your Email:

 

 

 

General Well-Being

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is a portion of the General Well-Being Scale first developed by Veit & Ware in 1983 and later modified by Huebeck & Neill in 2000. Rate your answer based on how true it is for you with one (1) being never, two (2) being sometimes, three (3) being moderately, four (4) being frequently and five (5) being always.
 

 

 

 

 

 

General Well-Being Survey
 

 
How happy, satisfied, or pleased have you been with your personal life during the past month?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
How much of the time, during the past month, has your daily life been full of things that were interesting to you?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
How much of the time, during the past month, did you feel relaxed and free of tension?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
During the past month, how much of the time have you generally enjoyed things?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
When you got up in the morning, during the past month, about how often did you expect to have an interesting day?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
How much of the time, during the past month, have you felt calm and peaceful?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
How much of the time, during the past month, were you able to relax without difficulty?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
During the past month, how much of the time has living been a wonderful adventure for you?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
How much of the time, during the past month, have you felt cheerful, light-hearted?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
During the past month, how much of the time were you a happy person?
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name: Your Email:

 

Are You Happy?

 

 

Are You Happy?

Read each statement. Mark a five (5) if you mostly agree with it and a one(1) if you mostly disagree. Numbers two (2), three (3), and four (4) are for gradations in between.

I know who I am and I like myself, even when I’m in between relationships. (Chapter 2)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am comfortable with being alone. (Chapter 2)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I mostly use Healthy Relationship Habits with my partner. (Chapter 4)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner uses mostly Healthy Relationship Habits with me. (Chapter 4)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner and I have compatible Need Strength Profiles and successful strategies for managing our areas of incompatibility. (Chapter 5)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I know my personal vision, mission, and values and they are not in conflict with my partner’s. (Chapter 6)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner and I are in sync with our goals and are navigating life in similar directions. (Chapter 6)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner and I gracefully and effortlessly move through the ‘Seasons of Love.’ (Chapter 7)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am very pleased with the balance of interdependence in my relationship. (Chapter 8)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am not a jealous person. (Chapter 9)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I understand that feelings in relationships can change and am flexible to allow for those changes, even if it means my partner ends our relationship. (Chapter 9)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I give my partner my undivided attention. (Chapter 9)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I get my partner’s undivided attention. (Chapter 9)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am very satisfied with the variety, duration, and frequency of our sexual activity. (Chapter 10)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am satisfied with our level of romance and intimacy. (Chapter 10)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am aware of the communication differences between my partner and me and I work toward accommodating them as much as possible. (Chapter 11)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
When I want a change from my partner, I clearly ask for what I want. (Chapter 12)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
If I don’t get the change I want, I take responsibility for my discontent and look for ways I can solve the problem. (Chapter 12)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I am quick to forgive instead of holding grudges. (Chapter 13)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
I not only accept, but actually appreciate, my partner’s differences. (Chapter 14)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Whenever my partner and I have a disagreement, I make it a point to listen to his or her point of view to really try to understand their position. (Chapter 15)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner and I work at resolving our differences until we are both satisfied. (Chapter 15)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner and I make it a point to use the Platinum Rule with each other. (Chapter 16)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner and I know each other’s love language and speak it often. (Chapter 16)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
My partner and I maintain healthy, permeable boundaries around our relationship. (Chapter 17)
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
Your Email:

 

 

 

Adaption to Change

 

 

 

Please rank each statement based on how much each statement describes you, with one being least like you and five being most like you.
 

 

When you find something you like, you have no problem telling others about it and sharing because you know that there is plenty for everyone.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
The more important something is to you, the more willing you are to share it.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Whenever something new is introduced, you seek out the benefits in the new situation.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
When presented with change, you are able to see how the change could easily make things better.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You are vigilant for signs that the current way of doing things may not be the most effective.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You are quick to change direction when the way you are going isn’t yielding the results you want.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You gain a strong sense of freedom when you move beyond your fear.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You are able to visualize yourself engaging in new behaviors and being successful.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You understand that the sooner you let go of the old ways, the quicker you can adapt to the new ways.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You understand that learning new things through trial & error is safer than refusing to change.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You realize that repeating the same old behaviors will not yield new results.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Once you see that there is benefit to change, you are able to adjust to it quickly.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You remain vigilant to notice the small changes so you are more prepared for the bigger changes to come.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
You do not fight or resist change.
Less True – 1 2 3 4 5 – More True
Your Name:
Your Email:

 

 

 

Conditions of Quality

 

 

 

Mark each statement true or false. Get your score by adding up all your true responses. Then ask your employees to take the assessment, compile their scores anonymously and see if their perceptions are the same as yours. (This will only provide you with an accurate assessment if employees believe that their scores will not be tied back to them in any way.)

The employees in this company mostly get along well with each other and display a high amount of teamwork.
TrueFalse
The employees are basically free of fear in the workplace and generally feel safe at work.
TrueFalse
The employees here believe they are valuable, listened to and respected.
TrueFalse
In this company, there are positive, healthy relationships between management and employees.
TrueFalse
Employees are encouraged to make certain independent decisions that are within the scope of their job.
TrueFalse
Employees here mostly report getting the right amount of supervision and do not feel either abandoned or micromanaged.
TrueFalse
Employees appear to have fun on the job.
TrueFalse
Employees are provided with useful learning that helps them preform their jobs better or prepares them for a promotion.
TrueFalse
When management has a new task or requirement of employees, it is always explained so staff understand the usefulness of the new requirements.
TrueFalse
There is an open door policy so employees feel comfortable coming to management with their suggestions and/or concerns.
TrueFalse
Employees are encouraged to evaluate their own work for quality and to make improvements as necessary.
TrueFalse
It is clear to your employees how the company defines quality in each of their job requirements.
TrueFalse
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