November is National Gratitude Month. Gratitude is so much more than giving someone thanks—it’s an emotion that can fill you up and spill over to reach others. Gratitude is the free antidote to depression, frustration, anger and resentment. Go ahead, try to hold thoughts of gratitude and painful emotions simultaneously. It’s impossible.

I remember after my husband died, Valentine’s Day was a challenging holiday. Not because he was a particularly romantic guy, but because commercials kept repeating, “Buy the one you love…” and “Take the one you love…” and nobody loved me. So Valentine’s Day turned into my annual big, fat pity party. Until one year, I decided to do something different. I knew Choice Theory and understood that if I was feeling an emotion I didn’t want to be feeling, I had to change what I was doing or thinking to alter that emotion. What I didn’t know then was the amazing power of gratitude.

On that particular Valentine’s Day, I decided to write thank you notes to all the people who had helped me raise my sons since my husband’s death. There were relatives, teachers, coaches and friends who had given up time, energy and resources to help my sons through that time. I spent that entire day writing notes, listing specifics of what I appreciated about them. The important piece is, I didn’t do it for them—I did it for me. At the end of the day, I felt more loved than I had in a very long time despite spending the entire day alone. That is the power of gratitude, and that gratitude spilled over to touch others. I later heard from many of the note’s recipients how much those messages meant to them.

In honor of National Gratitude Month, I crafted my 2019 list of things to be grateful for. I decided to do one for each day of the month, but it is my practice to also make an entry every evening in my Gratitude Journal. I work at listing three things I’m grateful for just before going to sleep so the gratitude will stay with me all night.

  1. Water… it sustains life
  2. Chocolate… because it’s yummy
  3. Salt lamps… they purify the air
  4. Parents… without them, we wouldn’t be here
  5. Warm sweaters… they keep me warm
  6. Velvet… everyone wants to touch velvet
  7. My lungs… they breathe for me
  8. Freedom… it’s good for the soul
  9. Computers… I can speak with people around the globe
  10. My ankles… they survived a crazy accident
  11. Love… makes my world go around
  12. Music… the universal language
  13. My arms… they hold the ones I love
  14. Friends… support you no matter what and tell you when you’re wrong
  15. Choice Theory… helps me see clearly
  16. Wolves… my spirit animal
  17. Peace… a feeling I crave and love
  18. Children… when we go, they will carry on
  19. Purple… my favorite color
  20. Traveling… new places, food and people
  21. Mountains… keep me humble
  22. Puppies, kittens and children… all make me smile
  23. Hope… sometimes it’s all we have
  24. People who put their life on the line for others… selfless bravery I don’t possess
  25. Grandchildren… is there anything better?
  26. Summer dresses… just because
  27. Sun on my skin… nurtures me
  28. Wind in my hair… when it’s 60 degrees or warmer
  29. Mentors who share unselfishly… because they can
  30. Family… love and history create connection

Taking the time to be grateful for what you have in your life instead of complaining about what you don’t have will immunize you against painful emotions. Give it a try… it’s free therapy.

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