Welcome to the Relationship Center

Here at The Relationship Center, it is our mission to help you get along better with the important people in your life, including yourself, at home and at work.
Empowering yourself from the InsideOut by understanding the world from a place where you engage the power of relinquishing your desire to control everything, while focusing inward on what you can do to manage the challenges of your life while steering in the direction you want to go.
Upon opening yourself up to Choice Theory, you can feel empowered by the possibilities. Choice Theory applies to every aspect of your life. It begins as an explanation for all human behavior, then morphs into a lens with which you process the world and then it become the way you life your life to your optimal advantage.

Are You Ready To:

• Get to know yourself better?
• Learn if your actions align with your values?
• Prioritize your needs?
• Pay attention to the relationship you forge with yourself?
• Determine what are your non-negotiables?
• Hold your own compass and find your true path?

You’ll Discover

  • Insights and suggestions gained by surveying happy couples
  • Practical advice from experts
  • Tips for identifying problems
  • A 3-step process for surviving affairs
  • Move beyond “tolerating” differences to appreciating
  • How to meet your partner’s needs and your own at the same time

Create a Diverse Workforce

  • Decrease Gossip in the Workplace
  • Decrease Time Mediating Disputes between Employees
  • Prevent Discrimination Litigation
  • Create a Respectful Workplace for Everyone
  • Improve Employee Morale
  • Reduce Paid Sick Time

Understand Relationships

  • Do relationships often leave you confused?
  • Do you wonder how two people can be on such different pages most of the time?
  • Do you find it challenging to obtain or maintain meaningful relationships?
Be kind to others, be kind to yourself, and have a lovely day! #choicetheory #kindnessmatters #nationallovelyday ...
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Limiting Beliefs about Emotions & PhysiologyWhenever the world gives us something different than what we want, our body gives us signals to let us know. These signals, whether a painful emotion or body pain unexplained by medical causes, exist to let us know to do something about the situation. The challenge is we often ignore these signals and create a behavior to remedy the situation that may include those painful emotions or body pain. When these experiences linger, they are no longer the signal as originated. Typically, subconsciously they have become part of our solution to get what we want. Limiting beliefs people have about this include:1. I can’t trust myself and these signals.2. I can’t get what I want without these painful emotions and body pains.3. People need to be guilted into doing the right thing.4. I don’t deserve to have what I want.These are all beliefs that can prevent you from maximizing the benefit from these painful occurrences while preventing you from learning more effective ways to get what you want.therelationshipcenter.biz#mentalfreedom #therelationshipcenter #kimolver #choicetheory ...
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In this episode I discuss the difference between discipline and punishment in school and how punishment doesn't really work unless all we want is compliance. When you are looking to help your students learn and grow, a new discipline is needed. Teachers aren't trained to be counselors to their students but they are often called upon to fill a similar role. The simplicity of helping students self-evaluate can help teachers gain a framework for providing students what they need, without a counseling degree.Listen in at life-choices.captivate.fm/episode/disciplinevpunishment.#teaching #education #selfevaluation #lifeequalschoices #disciplinevpunishment #effectivediscipline ...
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I really appreciate you and what you are doing for this world. It has truly inspired me. I started Choice Theory thinking that it is just another theory to learn. Instead it has put me on a journey to self discovery and more. It feels like a roller coaster ride and the past 4 days has shown me how to enjoy that ride. It would not have been possible without having gone through a great and empowering training with you.


Relationships are difficult and in those tough times , Kim’s insight and wisdom have helped me to become the parent, husband, and friend that I want to be. It is a blessing to have someone that provides you the balance you need to evolve. I now realize that it’s not about being who “they” want you to be but being the best YOU that you can be…Thanks Kim!


"For me, reading 'Choosing Me Now' was tantamount to spending a much needed weekend with a good friend who had my back. It brought me back to the important stuff with such gentleness and I've left more connected and more on my own side than I've been in a long time. Exactly the kind of friend I needed right now. Thank you Kim!"

Jo Watson, Birmingham, UK

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