Do You Have the Skills to Manage that Anger?
Are You Able to Manage Your Own Anger?
- A Logical, Psychological, Explanation for Anger
- Ways to Manage Your Own Anger and to Defend Yourself from Other People’s Anger
- To Recognize When You Need to Manage Your Own Anger and How to Do It
- An Eight Step Method for Assessing Your Readiness to Intervene in an Angry situation
- A Proactive Plan for Dealing with Angry People
- Methods of Discriminating the Early Warning Signs so You Can Intervene Before a Person becomes Angry and Loses Control
- Five Techniques for Diffusing a Person’s Anger
It may be difficult to imagine that anger is something you can control. You can control you own anger and you can learn to deescalate the anger of others.
Did you know that Anger is a chosen behavior?
You may be wondering why you should learn how to manage other people’s anger. No one has a right to talk to you that way and you should have the right to hang up the phone or walk away. You do have that right but the question is what does that choice do to the angry person. Often they become even more outraged. Learning these methods will give you the ammunition you need to take the proverbial wind out of the angry person’s sails.
You don’t like having to be the one to take someone angry outbursts, especially when you aren’t the one who caused the problem and you’re not responsible for its solution. I can definitely understand this sentiment. It certainly isn’t right and definitely isn’t fair to have to clean up other people’s messes. However, when you are the one who is confronted with the angry person, wouldn’t it be nice to have a plan already in place to manage that emotion so you don’t have to get the brunt of it?
I know there are some of you reading this letter who are thinking that you have NO desire to manage your own anger. Anger can be a very useful emotion. It can help us meet our needs in a variety of ways. Why would someone want to give up effective behavior? Just because you learn ways to manage your anger, doesn’t mean you have to use them. If you find yourself in a situation where you want to stay angry, then by all means hold on to your anger.
This eBook will only give you alternatives in case you find yourself in a situation where maybe anger isn’t appropriate or useful.
So, Take the First Step, It’s Time to Take Control of the Situation
“You cannot make anyone do what he or she does not want to do. We can only teach him a better way and encourage him to try it.”—Dr. William Glasser
- Learn powerful strategies to calmly manage all your life holds.
- Develop coping mechanisms to take control back in your life.
- You will no longer be a victim of your past, your emotions or your life circumstances.
- Learn an effective strategy for helping yourself and others make more effective decisions in your lives.
- Improve the significant relationships you have with the important people in your life.
- Learn strategies for more effectively getting what you want in life.
- Reduce the stress and distress you currently experience
Reality Therapy is a counseling method that was developed by Dr. William Glasser in 1965. However, it is so much more than a counseling technique. Reality Therapy is a problem solving method that works well with people who are experiencing problems they want help solving, as well as those who are having problems and appear to not want any assistance. Reality Therapy also provides an excellent model for helping individuals solve their own problems objectively and serves as the ideal questioning series during coaching sessions.
“I loved Dr. Glasser’s ideas when I heard him speak in 1991, and was certified in 1994. It was time for a review and the ebook was just right. I looked forward to reading each chapter and bringing my knowledge up to date. The personal examples demonstrating an idea were my favorites. Thank you Kim for this valuable resource at a reasonable cost.“— Beverly LaFond
The underlying key to Reality Therapy is the relationship that is established with the person who needs the help. This is most critical when you are attempting to help someone who doesn’t really want your help, such as a non-voluntary client, a resistant student or your sometimes even your own child. Without a positive relationship, you have no influence. To your helpee, you sound similar to the way adults sound in the Peanuts cartoons, “Whaa, wha, whaa, whaa, whaa.” Your helpee doesn’t hear you without the relationship. Gary Zucov says, “Relationship is the root of all influence.” This is certainly true. You can have all the knowledge in the world but if the person you are attempting to help doesn’t believe you care and have their best interests at heart, they, most likely, will not be listening to you.
Learn a complete psychology for why people do the things they do
Choice Theory is actually an explanation of all human behavior developed by Dr. William Glasser.
Choice Theory pretty much rids us of the idea that people are “misbehaving.” All anyone is doing is their best attempt to get something they want. Of course in the process, they may break laws, disregard rules and hurt others but those are really side effects of doing the best they know how to get their needs met. We are all doing our best—some of us simply have better tools, resources and behaviors at our disposal than others.
Get an overview of the work of Dr. William Glasser
If we embrace Choice Theory’s concepts, then our function should be more to educate and help others self-evaluate the effectiveness of their own behavior. Know that often they will continue to do things exactly as they have because it’s familiar and/or because what they are doing really is getting them something they want. It is not our job to stop them, nor is it our job to rescue them from the consequences of their own behavior.
Discover the Secrets of How to Create an Empowered Workforce
- How would you like to help your employees accomplish their goals?
- How would you like to help your employees manage their time more effectively?
- How would you like to provide an environment where you, your managers and their workers are empowered?
- How would you like your leaders to be more effective?
- How would you like to improve the overall work environment in your company?
- How would you like to have better communication between management and the employees?
It seems that every decade or so there is some new fad that runs through the business world in terms of supervision, and in the world of diversity management, downsizing, outsourcing, generational work conflicts and the information age, things are even more complicated than ever before.
No longer does a one size fits all leadership model really work. We can’t treat everyone the same and expect that everything will just “work out” somehow. Managers and leaders must have a framework with which to manage their workers in a way that honors everyone’s unique and specific position on the job.
Empowered Leadership is the way to do just that. Empowered Leadership shares the power between management and the workers, thus empowering both groups. Empowered leadership is based on the teachings of W. Edwards Deming and Dr. William Glasser, both of whom had excellent models to capitalize on the talents and abilities of the workforce for the growth and development of the company.
In this Empowered Leadership e-Book you will learn concrete steps you can take to achieve the results you want. Finally, real answers to creating an environment that empowers your entire workforce, both management and employees. If you want to keep pace with the changing times, now is the time to take action!
Create an empowering and satisfying work environment for you and your employees
Conventional wisdom tells us that when those in power relinquish some of their power by sharing it or giving it to their employees, then they would lose something, when in actually, they gain.
Think about it. When people rule with an iron hand, they generally instill fear in those who work for them. Do you do your best work when you are afraid? I don’t know about you but I will attempt to comply because I want to avoid negative consequences but it certainly won’t be my best work. The absolute best a manager can hope for with coercion is compliance. If compliance is enough, then coercion might work.
When leaders and managers seek to empower their workers, they will gain their loyalty. Workers want to give their supervisor their best when they are listened to and respected. Without fear, their minds can be creative and innovative.
Learn how to empower your workforce today. Purchase this amazing eBook NOW!
Learn a New Parenting Approach that will get You and Your Child More of What You Really Want
- Improve your relationship with your child, while maintaining your parental role and your meeting your responsibilities.
- Enhance communication with your child so you ’ll know what is really going on in his or her life.
- Learn to use the language that your child is most likely to hear to enhance your effectiveness.
- Teach your child how to make good decisions even when you are not around.
- Get the cooperation and respect you deserve from your child.
- Learn techniques to prevent your biggest fears from occurring.
- Disengage the innate power struggle and strategically align with your child ’s resistance to leverage your advantage
Just the information…and the knowledge you need to help you succeed as a parent
Empowerment Parenting is an exciting way to parent today’s child. More punishment, control and coercion is NOT the answer, neither is abdicating control to your children! We cannot continue to parent our children the way we did when they were younger children, or even the way our parents parented us. The world is different! Children are different! If we do not learn new innovations in parenting, our efforts will likely be ineffective at best, and actually destructive at their worst.
Buy this e-Book and learn about the inherent conflict between parents and their children, as well as ways to circumvent it. You can reasonably insure your child’s safety and still maintain a positive relationship.
Once you learn the things you will need to know about yourself and your child in this e-Book, you’ll realize that it isn’t so difficult, after all, to relate to your child, still stay the parent, and keep your child safe at the same time. Being the parent of a child doesn’t have to be burdened with frustration, conflict and worry. It can be fun, creative and relatively simple!
Think about it, parenting is probably the most important job you’ll ever undertake and the one for which you are the least prepared and trained. All we have is the model of how our parents parented us. Even if you were lucky enough to have a stupendous example of parenting, what was successful thirty or forty years ago, may no longer be effective because the context in which we are operating as parents is vastly different from the one from which our parents operated.
You update your computer programming don’t you? Why wouldn’t you update your parenting skills, as well? What worked for your five year-old, will probably not work as well for your 15 year-old.
Empowerment Parenting provides the answers.
Let’s make this year the year you get really serious about not only setting goals but actually accomplishing them
- How to identify your goals.
- How to maintain balance in your life while trying to attain your goals.
- How to take a honest personal inventory of where you are today.
- How to manage your time.
- How visualization and affirmations can help.
- How to achieve and maintain a positive attitude
- How to stay motivated
You can attain those goals that you keep setting year after year! They are achievable. All you need is a plan of action. My Goal Attainment e-Book will give you the steps you need to finally achieve those goals and create the fulfilling life you deserve.
Every year millions of people make their “New Year’s Resolutions” and every year many of those same people make the same resolution again. Are you one of those people? Do you know why you are not achieving your goals year after year? I know you start out the year strong and determined that this will be the year you will lose weight, go back to school, buy a home, look for a new job, complete that project etc… and you suddenly find another year has gone by and your list is not only the same, but it has gotten longer! You have new goals to achieve. That is why it is so important to work on your goals now!
You are constantly learning and growing and there will always be a new goal you want to achieve. You can attain your goals year after year with a effective, time-tested system—a plan with built in support and accountability. Attaining your goals requires hard work and determination. You need to plan and make time to work on your goals. They will not just happen. My Goal Attainment e-Book will give you the strategies you need to make a plan, manage your time while still maintaining a positive attitude and staying motivated until you complete your goals.
Wouldn’t you like this to be your year! The year you finally achieve that goal you have been working on for so long? Wouldn’t it be great to be able to put a line through that goal and move on to the next one? You can do it!
Become the person you really want to be
Wouldn’t it be phenomenal to set and obtain all of your goals this year? What’s the difference between those who do and the majority who do not? We all have the same amount of time in a day. How is it some people appear to be superhuman–going through their day accomplishing everything they set out to do while you find yourself wondering at the end of the day, “Where did all my time go?” or “How did I let everything else take priority and pull me away from what’s really important?”
I know I used to make resolutions at the beginning of the year. I was going to lose weight, spend more time with my children, cook more meals at home, become more organized and start my own business. I made and broke so many promises to myself that I eventually stopped making plans. Years would go by and nothing would change. I was still struggling with the same issues. Sound familiar?
One of the things that sets our program apart from the rest is that we just don’t focus on goal setting. Most people know how to set goals. Where they may falter is in the actual attainment of them. This is the more specific element our system addresses. While the goals you set are important and goal setting is a critical skill, goal setting means nothing if you don’t have the follow through to actually attain the goals you set! Our Goal Attainment e-Book will teach you those skills, as well.
What are You Searching For?
- Are you looking for Personal Satisfaction, Happiness and Inner Peace?
- Do you find that your happiness is often contingent on people, conditions or things?
- Do you often focus on what is negative in your life instead of the positive?
- Do you feel like you have no control over your life?
- Do you feel like all you are doing is waiting for circumstances to change while life passes you by?
Inside Out Thinking has the Power to Change Your Life!
When we are thinking of making changes in our lives, all too often we look externally. We have a perfect picture in our heads about what life should look like then we go about acting on life to give us whatever it is we think would be perfect. The only problem with this approach is that we are giving away our personal power.
Whenever we wait for certain things, people or conditions to be in place in order to be “happy,” what do we do in the meantime? I’ll be happy when my wife cooks more often or I’ll be happier if my husband were more romantic. Or I’ll be happy when my children start listening to what I say and stop sassing me every time I turn around. Or I’d be very happy at work if my boss would just recognize the contributions I make. This is when we want other people to match up to the perfect world we have created in our minds.
Then, there are those situations when we make our happiness contingent on certain things. I’ll be happy if I made more money. I can’t make more money until I finish my degree. I’ll be happy when we can have our own home. I’ll be happy if I can get a new job. I’ll be happy when my parents are healthy. Again, I ask, “What does one do in the meantime?”
While it is perfectly acceptable to hope for things to be different in your life and to strive to improve and make things better, it’s unacceptable to waste your life on negative emotions. There is a saying that you are what you think about and that what you keep in mind expands. So, if you are always focused on the negatives and the things you lack, then you will attract more negative into your.
In this eBook I will talk about concrete steps you can take to achieve the results you want. Finally, real answers to creating a better life, becoming happier and improving the relationships with the important people in your life. Now is the time to take action! Purchase this amazing eBook today and start living the life your deserve!
Create the happy, peaceful and fulfilling life your deserve
Most human suffering is our resistance to what exists in our life. We become quite power hungry trying to change others to meet our needs. What would happen if you simply accepted everyone where they are at, without exception? What if you recognized that things are already perfect just the way they are? Could you be more content and happier with the life situations that already exist?
Inside Out Thinking teaches individuals first to attribute the problem to the correct individual and then works with the problem owner at adjusting his or her behavior. This allows the unhappy person to be in the driver’s seat with his or her own emotions. Starting from the inside out, people empower themselves by adjusting their own thoughts and behavior to manage whatever life throws at them.
Take the first step in taking control of your life! Purchase this amazing eBook today and start living the life your deserve!
Are You Ready to Profit From Our Differences?
- Move beyond “valuing” diversity to leveraging its power
- Get buy-in from everyone before imposing diversity initiatives
- Reduce turnover by keeping people motivated to perform
- Eliminate stagnation at entry-level positions
- Convert “equal opportunity” to an advantage at upper levels of management
- Ensure follow-through on training and program implementation
A diverse workforce is one of your greatest assets, yet precious few companies have learned to leverage its power. Beyond recruitment and hiring, many businesses fall short when it comes to retention and motivation of the diverse workforce they worked so hard to employ. For minority employees, the missing piece is often a strong sense of self and an appreciation for who they are and what they offer.
Leveraging Diversity at Work goes beyond calling for diversity to give business leaders the knowledge and tools they need to profit from our differences. Minority workers will also find real-world inspiration for contributing to their company’s vision, mission and success.
This book helps companies who understand the value of diversity to build, retain and leverage the diverse workforce they need to be competitive in this country, as well as the global market. The book starts in the very beginning where most books and training programs don’t. Before any executive can implement long term organizational change, the company must ensure the cooperation and conviction of its employees. I am reminded of the saying, “If you think you are leading and no one is following, then you are just out for a walk.”
“A bottom-line, rubber-meets-the-road guide to profiting from the diversity you worked so hard to create. A must-read for all business professionals.” — – Kenton Clarke, Diversity Business
We designed this book with you in mind. We know you are busy. We know how tedious it can be to read some of the technical business books that are out there. We wrote our book in storytelling style so it will be something you will enjoy reading. This won’t be a book you buy and then leave sitting on your shelf.
This book will help you assess the strengths of your company as it is now and provide you with action steps for the future to improve what already exists. Ensure follow-through on training and program implementation. You will have a direction and many concrete examples of where to go from here.
Leveraging Diversity at Work: How to Hire, Retain and Inspire a Diverse Workforce for Peak Performance and Profit is the book that will truly assist companies in their journey toward cultural competence and a true sense of valuing diversity from both a personal and business perspective.
Are You Ready to Re-Join
the Living ?
How does one start over after the loss of a loved one? It is a monumental task that just feels overwhelming at times. Similar rebuilding occurs after the death, divorce or separation of a loved one.
First comes the shock of the loss and an almost denial that is has happened, particularly if there was no warning. You had hopes and dreams of the future that included your loved one and suddenly he or she is not there. How will you cope? How can you go on?
But go on you will. Oftentimes, your first step is to attempt to regain what you have lost. This is impossible if your loved one has died but that won’t stop us from trying. A lot of what you go through in your grieving process is your best attempt to keep that person alive and well in your perception. So, you do things such as relive the memories, look through picture albums, talk about your loved one to everyone who will listen, think about him or her every minute and even speak to him or her out loud.
If your loved one has not died, but has chosen to walk out of your life, it can be even more challenging. In this case, you not only have to get over the shock of the loss but also cope with the feelings of rejection.
In your best attempt to get your loved one back, you may engage in all the behaviors someone who has lost their partner to death would. But in addition, you may beg him or her to take you back, follow your loved one around, try to get his or her friends to intervene on your behalf, and a host of other less than effective behaviors.
Everyone grieves at his or her own pace. I am in no way suggesting that this process can or should be rushed. What I am saying is that when a you are ready, you can turn your grief into a new hope for the future.
There is nothing magic about the passage of time. Healing is dependent on what you DO with your time.
There’s a quote by Dr. Seuss that is very helpful during this phase. “Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.” You may not quite be ready to embrace that thought now, but our Prepare to Love Again eBook will help you get there.
When you find yourself in the process of starting over, adapting this particular attitude is incredibly helpful. This may seem uncomfortable at first, almost a betrayal of the love you shared, but it is the most healing thing you can do at this point.
Would you Like to Intensify your Intimacy,Raise the Romance and Strengthen your Sex Life?
You and your partner will begin to communicate again in a more positive way.
Intimacy will increase between you.
You will gain clarity on the direction you want to go in your life as it pertains to your significant relationship.
Relieve the stress of trying to change your partner.
You will discover positive things that you can do to improve your relationship all by yourself.
Women will get more romance; men will get more sex.
Begin to function as a team again— deepening the level of respect you have for each other.
Most people in failed relationships neglect to look at the role they played in the failure. They are much more comfortable pointing a finger at their partner and squarely placing the blame on his or her shoulders. In all the time I have worked with couples, I have never seen a relationship fail simply because of one person’s failings or shortcomings. Both people contribute to the break up of a relationship. To me, it only makes sense to look at our own contribution to the mix. Why? We are wasting our energy trying to get our partner to change. People pretty much are who they are and they do what they do until they, themselves, are ready to change.
If you are waiting for your partner to change, how long have you already been waiting? How much longer are willing to wait? If you partner has to change for you to be satisfied, then I would suggest finding a new partner or completely accepting your partner as is.
The real empowering place to focus your energy when attempting to improve your relationship is on your own thinking and behavior. Now that is something you have control over changing!
Relationships from the Inside Out helps people look at the things in their life over which they have control. In relationships, who do you think you can control?
It sure isn’t your partner! If it were, you would simply control him or her into being the person you want and then you would live happily ever after! The only person’s behavior you can control is yours. It sounds so simple and so common sense but how often, particularly in relationships, do you try to change the other person? It’s an exercise in futility.
Does any of this sound familiar?
One Thing I Know for Sure is that When You are Getting Along Well with the Important People in Your Life, Then the Rest of Your Life Seems to Flow More Smoothly, Too.
You don’t have to settle for mediocre in your relationship, you can achieve marvelous!
I have always wanted to write a relationship book but I didn’t just want to write about my ideas. I wanted to talk to couples who were really happy and satisfied in their relationship with each other. So I decided to recruit those couples who had been together at least ten years where both individuals indicated separately that they were happy and satisfied in their relationship. I set my goal at 100 couples and went about talking and interviewing couples. I expected to complete my research in about 6 months. I really knew this book had to be written when it took over two years of concentrated effort before I could even find 100 happy couples.
The divorce rate in this country is a little over 50% with many who stay together doing so out of a sense of obligation, guilt or an assessment that there is more to lose in leaving. There are not enough people that are happy and satisfied in their relationships with their significant others. There are too many people out there living with relationships that are less than satisfying.
It took me two years to confirm what I have always believed to be true in relationships:
All Great Relationships Begin and End with Yourself.
This book can help everyone improve their relationships because it focuses on what YOU can do as an individual to improve yourself, your love life and sex life. This books contains seven (7) different exercises and quizzes including a Need Compatibility quiz, Rules of Engagement exercise, Steps for Recovery exercise and many more.
Believe it or not YOU can make the difference all by yourself. This book is about change and acceptance, not changing your partner but changing your behaviors to make your relationship happier and more satisfying. So if you are the one unhappy with aspects of your relationship, don’t wait. Start today. You hold the key to a happy and healthy relationship.
I believe that if everyone followed the principles of Secrets of Happy Couples we would all live happier and healthier lives. We would stop spending the majority of our time and energy trying to change the important people in our lives and accepting them. This book will give you the tools you need to start improving those important relationships in your life and accept them instead.
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Would you like to Improve the Unhappy Relationship You Have with FOOD???
- Create the body you want.
- Exercise and actually like it.
- Become conscious about your food decisions.
- Develop more self-confidence, particularly in social situations.
- Maintain or improve your overall health and well-being.
- Establish a better relationship with food. Food is no longer the enemy!
- Reprogram your mind to a new you mindset.
- Build a closer relationship with yourself and the important people in your life.
Unfortunately, we all need food to survive and we must learn how to deal with food in our lives if we want to be happy and create the body we want. We can do this by applying Choice Theory. What is Choice Theory? It is a new psychology of personal freedom, an explanation for why you do what you do—no matter what is behind your weight issue, this theory can provide a framework for understanding.
Losing weight is never about the food, it is about what is going on inside—your thoughts and feelings, as well as, how you interpret and act on those thoughts and feelings
How many times have you attempted to lose weight only to gain it and more back again? Are you tired of being on a diet? Wonder what makes this program different? Well, in the first place, it is done in the privacy of your own home at your own pace. You decide when to complete the next lesson.
This eBook does not focus on the number on the scale. It is about what you tell yourself and the habits in which you engage. Most weight loss programs fail because you are still having thoughts and behavior that support your bad habits. This program will help you change that.
You will learn the psychology and physiology about weight loss. You will explore your past successes, your food triggers and the thoughts you tell yourself. You will learn ways to reprogram your mind for long lasting change.
This program can help you become more satisfied when you look in the mirror. You will be able to visualize the end result from the beginning. You will find the right and healthy weight for you and be happy when you achieve and maintain it. You will have more energy and a more positive outlook on life. Give it a try.
One Thing I Know for Sure is that When People Feel Good About Themselves, The Rest of Their Lives Seems so Much Better, Too.
Do you ever find yourself in a session wondering what to ask next? Are you someone who finds yourself doing more telling than questioning? Do you want to become more skilled at asking good questions in your sessions? Then the Powerful Questions eBook is for you! It is based on the process of Reality Therapy and includes a questioning process, listing ideal questions to ask in particular situations. Read it, practice and internalize and you will always have a guide for the direction to go in your counseling or coaching sessions.
This book includes handouts Kim uses when she teaches her basic training in Choice Theory. There are handouts addressing Choice Theory, Reality Therapy, Lead Management, Quality Schools and Role Play. If you do not understand Choice Theory, this is probably not a purchase for you. This collection is for people who know Choice Theory and want to teach it themselves at their workplace, new WGI instructors looking for material to use in their training that has already been developed and people from Kim’s training looking for a clean copy of the information they received during training.
This course is hosted on Teachable.com. For information and to purchase go to: https://therelationshipcenter.teachable.com/p/diversity
- Do relationships often leave you confused?
- Do you wonder how two people can be on such different pages most of the time?
- Do you find it challenging to obtain or maintain meaningful relationships?
This book breaks down relationships in an easy-to-understand way, while offering lot of practical advice for how to improve them. Choice Theory adds a new layer to the topic that is missing from the common knowledge currently known about relationships.
A blank 5×8 lined writing journal that can be used in conjunction with the 31 Day Strategic Self-Care Challenge Tip Sheet or my Choosing Me Now book.